You wake up in the morning, head to the bathroom, shower, brush your teeth and clean your tongue with your TUNG Brush and Gel. You look over, and there is your partner – all dressed and heading out the door for the day. Wait!!! He didn’t brush his teeth! YUCK, you think – how is that possible? How can anyone not brush his or her teeth every day!?!?
Good habits start early
Have you thought about asking your partner if his mom or dad took him to the dentist regularly when he was a child? Perhaps she wasn’t taught good oral hygiene at home either. The patterns established in childhood can continue throughout adulthood. But that doesn’t mean they can’t change!
Don’t be mean – but be honest
Whatever you do, remember that any subject that broaches hygiene is difficult and can be embarrassing. Think about how hard it might be to tell someone she needs deodorant, right? Well, the same idea holds true for telling someone their teeth are yellow or their breath is stinky. And remember, too, that your partner may just become super-defensive and jump down your throat. Stay calm and remind him that this is for his own good, stress health, appearance etc. Don’t make it about you. And remember – you may have to have this conversation more than once.
Use a visual to help him or her understand
While you are having your quiet conversation, bring a mirror. Assuming that your partner’s teeth are yellow or decaying, let him or her see what he or she looks like to others. And, while you are at it, have some evidential facts with you. Let your partner know the statistics of tooth loss and gum decay that result from poor hygiene.
Call in the pros!
You may just have to drag your partner to a dentist, but it might provide him with the scientific and objective explanation of how his lack of care is deleterious to his health. And a professional cleaning and exam might be the best way to kick-start a new at-home oral hygiene regime.
When all else fails – remember to stress how much you love your partner! Give your partner a big kiss even if you cringe a little 😉…them remind him or her how much better those kisses will be if you BOTH take care of your mouths!
So what if your partner still doesn’t brush his/her teeth even though they know the pros and cons?? My partners breath smells like shit and it’s destroying our sex life. I can not be aroused when all I smell
Is shit
Well to be honest, why are you still with him? No way I would even date someone who doesn’t take care of his teeth, let alone live with him. I don’t understand some of you women…why don’t you leave him??? To me it’s a deal breaker if someone doesn’t have good hygiene.
You can love someone dearly even though they don’t brush. My husband is so loving and devoted. He doesn’t brush because of severe psychological problems, but that doesn’t mean I would ever leave him. I love the man.
My wife and I have been together for nearly 30 years, we met when we were in our teens. We’re still young and very active, but, her lack of hygiene is putting a very big strain on our marriage and it’s wearing me down. She sleeps all day, doesn’t do squat to care for our home, showers once a month (Maybe) and has horrible plaque build up throughout her teeth which smells like she eats feces for breakfast! I try to ask her to please go to the dentist as this could be bad for her health, but she turns it into a grudge match and the fight gets nasty. We haven’t kissed in over 2 years and our sex life is slowly disappearing as her nasty attitude and horrible breath is more than I can handle after years of battling it. I handle all the cooking at home for our family because again, it would never get done otherwise. I’m feeling spent and its getting harder to handle. I’m fit, hygienic and am hit on constantly by other women, but I’ve never stepped out, but the constant fighting over hygiene is wearing me down and it’s only a matter of time before I send her to kick rocks!
Please leave her. This is not okay and this has been going on for far too long for you to not take such action. The fact you have put up with it for as long as you have says a lot about the person you are and she should be BEYOND grateful to have someone like you in her life and has her husband, but there comes a point where you need to be a good person to yourself, too. Seems to me she has severe mental issues that require some attention and maybe the first step isn’t even the dentist, therapist and/or a doctor to figure out this behavior and set plans in place for her to get better. I think a good approach would be to tell her you will leave her if she doesn’t get the help she needs and set a time frame— a healthy time frame sounds to me, 1 week to get to the doctors and talk about her issues and another week to set a plan of action in place and hygiene progress has started. Let her know that you’ve tried everything you, as an individual, her husband, and father can for this to work out and you have put up with it for far too long for it to be a situation acceptable for you to continue being in. Let her know exactly how this has directly effected many aspects of your life and now it’s time for you to choose yourself and your own person happiness, well-being, and mental state and that she’s dragging you down with her and you’ve been dragged BEYOND the limit. If you don’t, this will never be fixed or get better for both of you or just you, if it has gotten this bad and for as long as it has, this is the only option. If you stay with her, you will be (even more) severely depressed, unhappy, sexless, and your mental health will suffer, as well as relationships outside of you and her will become strained/ effected and you’ll have no one but this disgusting troll who only seems to exist to make you suffer and bring you down with her. Life is too short for this and there’s obvious reasons why these basic hygiene skills, sleep schedules, chores, and basic day to day activities for your health exist. It’s time for you to wake up and start living your life as the normal, wonderful, hygienic man you are, please just choose yourself and GET OUT! You will be so grateful you did and your new life will prove that to you each day you spend without her- – sending love and strength. You got this.
Hi JJ, I’m so sorry to hear this. I too found this blog as I’m looking what to do as I’ve suggested several times to my partner to brush his teeth. We’ve been in this 3 yrs and he’s 16 years older than me and I’m seeing his teeth begin to slightly rot at the top . All his other hygiene is decent unlike your ladies. It sounds like it could be depression on her end especially if you say she’s finding it hard to get out of bed. Maybe have you thought about doing couples counseling? Great job for hanging in there and not stepping out, that’s very admirable!
I understand that… I guess it just gets frustrating after a while that people just don’t do it… I guess maybe suggesting that we do it together and voice my concerns and say it’s hard for me to be intimate when you have these habits.
Well you do not just dispose your partner for some flaw. It is better to find a way to help them out.
Lmao if your married u can’t just leave!
Why when you approach your girlfriend or significant other about dental hygiene, and leaving there underwear pilled upon the floor seat showing they get mad and in there feelings
Not brushing teeth can be a sign of depression and leaving someone cause they have depression makes you kind of a cow… So rethink that stupid statement of yours
Notapos I don’t need to rethink it. Depression isn’t always the cause for a lack of hygiene, nor does the blog post even mention it. Some people are just gross and lazy.
My husband was very hygiene the 1st 24 yrs of marriage. Now he stopped wearing deodorant and thinks that brushing hus teeth 1x in the morning is enough since after all he did rinse with lystrine and that should kill everything. But I told him food gets stuck between teeth and eventually decay and even cause a infection. And its because I love him that I dont want him to suffer.
Omg same! Did you figure out how to help your partner with routinely brushing their teeth? Im struggling trying to get my husband to brush. I think it’s been almost a week and he finally brushed today cause I asked. It also doesnt help that he smokes. And it does upset him when I make him brush his teeth and shower before we get intimate. I dont want to act like his parent telling him to brush, but something needs ro change. When we dated he always smelled good. Now married 3 yrs and 2 kids he needs to be an example.
Did your partner start brushing after telling him??
My 52 year old girlfriend won’t regularly brush her teeth and her breath constantly stinks so bad! She is always want sex, which is great, but her mouth smells like a sewer! When I try to tactfully talk to her about it, she makes it out that I’m being unreasonable; obviously she doesn’t care that her breath smells like shit…it is so nasty!
I feel you Larry. I’ve been married almost 8 years and my wife has not been to the dentist the entire duration. When I get ready in the morning, I brush my teeth alongside our 2 children. My wife is all dressed and and ready to leave. I always notice her toothbrush is drier than the Sahara. I cannot remember the last time I saw her brush her teeth, even though she insists she does. Her bottom row of teeth are all jacked up and I notice it when she’s talking. She doesn’t take criticism well and tends to fly off the handle so I ignore it. But this is getting out of hand. It is affecting my attraction to her. I am very attracted to cleanliness and a woman who takes care of her body.
I don’t know how to approach her about this..
This is my exact situation with my wife of 3 years. I’ve had numerous conversations with her about her oral hygiene. She never flosses nor scrubs her tongue which is a huge part of bad breath. I’ve bought her a floss stick and tongue brush which she’ll use for a few days and then go back to her old ways. When she does brush, it’s literally for 20-30 seconds. She’s even bought tongue brushes herself after our conversations but then never uses them. It’s such a huge turn off and has negatively impacted our sex life. I can’t remember the last time we had sex.
I’m having the same issue with my guy and I honestly just noticed that he didn’t brush. I ask him all the time if he brushed his teeth but the answer is always no. I even asked him if he wants to brush them with me when I brush mine and he says no. He regularly sees a dentist and rinses his mouth with listerine but the breath is still bad and now there is a lot of plaque build up on his gums around his teeth and it is disgusting me. I can see how this will effect our sex life. I’ve went through periods of not brushing in the past because I battle depression. He mentioned once that he is depressed but won’t seek help or talk about it. He’s pushing me away in many aspects of our relationship now and it’s becoming hard to care when he could care less. Don’t want to be without him but I need him to care about his health more. Ironically he eats plant based foods because he’s borderline diabetic and I explained to him that not brushing can cause that very same thing. I even asked him if he would let his daughter go to school without brushing her teeth and he wouldn’t answer but I know the answer so I don’t know why he is acting like I’m asking him to do something horrible…
This is all so sad but a little comforting knowing I am not alone. I have been with my bf for almost 3 years and at this point if he doesn’t make a drastic change I really don’t think I can stay. I’ve spent a lot of money on my smile and I love a nice white smile. It’s such a big attraction factor for me. Your teeth don’t have to be super straight , just clean. I have hinted and tried to put it nicely so many times but at this point im over it. I have not tongue kissed him in like 2 years which is sad because I really really love to kiss. I’m frustrated. This is such a stupid issue to be having and it’s embarrassing af! When I was tongue kissing him my gums would get super irritated. In 2 weeks when he gets out the fire fighter academy I’m going to be super straightforward. I really don’t want to end my relationship over this but we will see.
Wow I to have been with my partner 3 years and nothing has changed. He’ll do it once in a while when I ask, when he goes on a trip I never see him take a tooth brush. I know his lack is due to being from a different country but I’m trying to help him and it’s like nothing is working
I’m over asking .. he can stink
My husband would go for weeks without brushing. Now he brushes once a day!!! Big improvement, but still eats sugar at night and doesn’t brush. So he still brought home 2 cavities from dentist! So i was upset and ended up nagging then feeling guilty! The situation is much improved, thank God.
My friend’s husband never brushed and ended up with blood clots in lungs bad infection all teeth pulled hates the dentures and now walks around toothless
BRUSH YOUR DANG TEETH AND TEACH YOUR KIDS TO.
Dang! This is intense but very important! I have screenshot this, meant and I’m tempted to share it. It really makes you wonder how and why things have changed since the caveman days, I guess a lot of sugar wasn’t around and things are not as natural and hole.
My bf was kinda similar after we moved in together he started not looking after himself. His breath smells like sewer in the morning and I kept telling him to atleast use the mouthwash in the morning especially before going to work. I feel like a mother of one already!
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and have never seen him brush his teeth. Now I’m pregnant and I can’t even kiss or be near his breath because it makes me throw up. It literally smells so bad. Then he’ll bring up some dumb stuff that it’s his mouth and if it’s not a problem to him it shouldn’t be to me. :,(
Can you get disease or bacteria from someone doesn’t brush their teeth when they give you oral sex???
Yes. Yeast infections galore. I speak from experience as someone who dated someone with an unclean mouth for awhile. We broke up and the infections stopped immediately.
If you kiss someone with gum disease you can get gingivitis from them. GROSS
I know what your talking about my partner does not care that he stinks like shit we don’t kiss because I can’t stand it sec sucks too he ain’t going any where near me with that much bacteria in his mouth it’s killing the relationship
Haha this made me laugh jut I can soooo relate. I’ve just split with mine and I finally plucjed up the courage to tell him as I didn’t smell his breath for couple of months.. He was using gum ect.. When I started to smell it I nearly vomited yet each day for weeks and weeks he would leave for work. His tooth brush literally has dust on it. I felt it a total lack of respect for me
my boyfriend gave me a yeast infection because he gave me head and didn’t brush his teeth ! I told him and he was very embarrassed but it had to be done .. gross !
I think it’s a lack of respect I can’t sit anywhere near mine one close to calling it quits his breath makes our room stink he smells like an old person at my work
LMFAO
My boyfriend does chewing tobacco AND doesn’t brush unless I really push him. He usually showers in the morning but comes home from work smelly which means I’m not having sex with him. He loves to give me oral and asks to do it but I say no because I know his mouth is gross! I put up a monthly chart in bathroom and if he brushed I put smiley face with green circle and if not I put sad face with red circle. I told him he has to do it twice a day and for 2 weeks it should have been 28 times and he only did 3;(
That visual really makes it real for me but I guess it doesn’t for him. I won’t leave him because he treats me wonderfully but I can’t be intimate which he really wants. And if he drinks he brings it up like I’m the problem…lol. I really miss kissing him and sometimes he will say c’mon brushed but with the chewing tobacco it only takes 5 minutes after brushing before I smell that again. I’m at a loss:(
Must be a huge problem with men. I’m married 51 years and had our bad ups and worse downs. But it took many years finding out that my husband never brushed his teeth!!! I believe after my grown sons left the home. We all shared one bathroom so toothbrushes were lined up for each of us.
I always bought new brushes and we went for six month dental cleanings. I love passionate kisses but now, I wont kiss him on the mouth and obviously he doesnt care. When I was young, I got many utis and now know why. The bacteria in his mouth must have been bad. I tried talking with him nicely and respectfully about brushing. His own mother made a comment about his teeth and said he always brushed at home. I DO NOT BELIEVE HER! Obviously he just doesn’t care. Lazy men.
Wow. Chewing tobacco is even worse. Yikes.
Sorry.
Im in the same situation, iv been with my bf for 2 years, and not once did he brush his teeth, i didnt know how to bring it up, and really he shouldnt be putting me in that situation to have to, he doesnt have to tell me to brush i just do it…..his teeth are rotten and lots missing, i dont know what his co workers think but it cant be good, why isnt he ashamed? When were out he starts talking to ppl i feel some embarresed….just last month i brought it up, i had to i couldnt take it anymore, i asked him if he was depressed he said no, nothing has changed, i never kiss him like i want to, just peck on cheek…..i dont deserve this kind of relationship, i want passion and how can i get that when his breathe is so bad i almost pass out…….a person can be only take so much, its ridiculous….please help any answers il be happy to hear them thanks
This is interesting I too am dealing with this but for some reason his doesn’t wreak like allll the other comments unless I’m knumb and oblivious to the smell.
Dump him
I agree it’s day 25 and I e asked him to do it in day 15 I even said it’s destroying us he still didn’t do it he just learned near and I lost it and told his breath stinks . He won’t care he won’t brush them I’m sitting back counting the days now I’m over it he smells like shit
I know how you feel our sex live is over he smells like shut and I near vomit this time it’s been 7 weeks and I’m sick of asking I’m not his mother I can’t get close to him it makes me sick
How is it now ?
Same! It’s so gross. I hate it
I know how you feel. You want to stay away physically.I
Also my gf don’t want brush her teeth. I feel like I am her father. Its so sad she don’t realize how much important is for me her hygiene. But I love her I accept also this bad side of her.
Break up with them if they don’t change it end of story
Isn’t that easier said than done? They are clearly battling depression even though they might say they aren’t or were simply not taught it. It’s not easy starting up a new habit.
Im going through this with my baby momma. Ive got a 6 month old. Its driving me crazy and she begs for sex nonstop. Ive told her numerous times how this is affecting me and our relationship still its worse than a child. I could MAKE a child but what do I do with a grown woman who refuses. Do I just up and leave my 6 mo. old child or take him from her. Grrrrrr
My partner is worse than a child I’m over asking him I’m not his mother !! I can’t even sit near him as he stinks
That’s how I always feel like I AM NOT YOUR MOTHER! He even said well why didn’t you just ask me to shower, I’m like why didn’t you take it upon yourself if you wanted to be intimate, not to mention… Egan’s the last time you brushed your teeth
I like to think I take care of my teeth. I brush in the morning and brush and floss at night and rinse with listerine. It is my daily ritual whether I feel like it or not. My husband, on the other hand, does not brush his teeth. I can’t say “never” actually as there may be occasions…but he will go weeks. To put it in perspective he has had the same tube of Aquafresh cinnamon flavored tooth paste for 3 years now! I check it to gauge progress but there usually isn’t any. I have hinted that bacteria can get in to his blood stream and could affect his heart but to no avail. Some days are horrible when he kisses me! Love him to deathbed I don’t understand this behavior.
Your better than me I can’t kiss mine even get near him it sickens me the smell makes me near dry reach
Why are men so screwed up? Why is it always women who have to change? Be understanding? I have been with men from Harvard; neurologists, auto workers and undertakers. They are all the same. First they love bomb you. Then they get in your pants. Move in and then become oppositional 11 year olds suffer from erectile dysfunction and poo in their pants. For better or worse. Most of it is worst.
It’s hardly an issue with the male sex. It’s a psychological inconsistency that causes the brain to deteriorate to a point where it doesn’t believe that it is required anymore. This specific problem is also a tributary from many neurological complications, such as depression. This being so, statistically, women are more susceptible to neurological disorders, or at least, suffering from them to a greater extent, which, by default makes these complications more common for women. A poor past relating to the male sex, such as what you seem to covey, hardly provides grounds for the accusations that you put forth.
Omg your comment has me dying of laughter!!
On another note, sadly it seriously has some truth to it.
Wow I can relate to all of you. It sucks because I love him to death. But I don’t understand his neglect when it comes to personal hygiene. It is some kind of mental illness? Stemming from depression? Like does putting effort into brushing teeth and showering make them feel too vulnerable? Is it denial? Or is it just pure lazy childish bullshit.. I always make him brush his teeth and shower from now on if there is going to be any intimacy. Some days I get so frustrated. He is lucky he doesn’t smell bad. Despite his unhealthy habits he eats very healthfully.
OMG, so i work with a guy who used to tell me his girlfriend wouldn’t brush her teeth regularly causing. baddd breath and i thought “ew yuck?” well low and behold my boyfriend is becoming the same way and i just told him he needs to brush more and he said well sometimes i don’t feel like it. i asked “can’t you feel the plaque on your teeth????” he says no i feel fine. OMG i brush my teeth religiously and he can’t even do it once a day. i told him i don’t wanna kiss him because its so bad. i felt terrible but i finally had to say it!! the smell of his breath made me nauseous as hell. YUCK so sad this is driving me apart from him, cant do it anymore
Gingivitis is contagious, yes you can get a infection and no its not a mental disorder. Like the article says it starts with the parents, blame them for your unhygienic loser. This morning i was woken up by the smell of sewer. My boyfriend swears up and down he brushes but i know he only uses mouthwash because the smell never goes away. We do not kiss, if he breaths on me we are going to have a fight. It’s absolutely repulsive and i break up with him constantly. He is a really nice guy to me but I can’t remember the last time we has passionate anything.
lmaooooooooooooooooooooo hahahahaaa! I nearly fell out laughing at this lol its true. My girlfriend does NOT like to brush her teeth. She even has braces to support her teeth to stop it from falling out and she still only likes to brush in the morning SOMETIMES and she does not floss or brush at night. She has a 10 year old daughter whose mouth is FILTHY to the point where her gums are swollen and bleeding. Her teeth is rotten inside of her gum and she has a double row. The child told me that she is too lazy to brush her teeth and I see why. Her mother is equally lazy! After complaining about tooth aches I mentioned the risks of improper hygiene. Yet they both still do not brush at night or floss and when I urged the child to brush her teeth her mother stepped in immediately after 8pm and asked “does it have to be this minute?”. They both went to bed that night and every night thereafter without brushing their teeth. It’s intentional and her mother is defiant and is petty and touchy. Always defiant and feels as though nobody can tell her what to do. So I left them both and pay no attention to them and kept on with my ritual. My girlfriend got upset and said “you don’t touch or kiss me anyway” and I said “maybe because you do not take care of yourself properly!”. She didn’t say anything after and kept right on neglecting her personal hygiene and her daughter’s as well. I am about to break up with her shortly, in my mind we are already done!
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Its called love. When you love someone you want better for them. You look out for them. You care for them. Not leave when they dont meet your standards. Maybe your standards are to high. And maybe that’s what wrong people nowadays. People need to give more love. AND stop judging. No one’s perfect.
I agree that when you love someone you must look out for them. I finally got my husband to brush once a day and consider that a victory, but some days, I get so angry and frustrated. Then feel so much guilt
Yes my husband also don’t brush his teeth at night and at times he eat his breakfast without brushing his teeth . I didn’t know till we married ..
Tbh , I am disgusted by this So much that from then I dare not shared food with anyone . He got offended , he always commented why we kiss before marriage and why I was fine with sharing food with his families or with others before marriage. He take it as a personal attack and he bear grudges against me till now . He make light of this basic hygiene . He is much older then me but yet behave liked a child . I think it more of a respect for your partner to have basic hygiene -,brush teeth twice a day , floss teeth daily and take a shower before laying in bed . Properly Discard used tissue papers into bins and not laying it on the floor in bedroom I am speechless about it all these years . He still don’t see my point and commented that I have changed and I am too particular ., I don’t think I am asking too much . This is a basic hygiene.
LMAO…good basic hygiene like brushing your teeth regularly is considered having standards that are too high??? It’s basic common sense! You can catch their bacteria from their dirty mouth and they may not live long as bacteria from a mouth infection can get into their bloodstream and lead to heart problems.
Omg yes it’s repulsive!! My husband doesn’t like to brush at night, only in the shower (and if he doesn’t shower right away on the weekends- ew). I feel like his mother (who did everything when he was growing up and I’m saddled with it ) when I have to tell him every night to brush his teeth. He already eats like garbage, so his gut is all messed up and contributing to halitosis. But then when he doesn’t brush?? Iiccckkkk. I’m so sensitive to bad breath, I literally don’t ever want to kiss him anymore. He thinks he’s fine because he gets good reports from the dentist- but his dad had dental problems later in life. Just because he gets good reports now doesn’t mean he always will; but he’s so cavalier, he doesn’t think he’ll ever have a problem. Tonight, he brushed in the shower He’s a 13 year old trapped in a 30 year olds body! They say, “Pick your battles,” but when every issue is a symptom of the same bigger problem,- his laziness- it feels like I choose every battle.
I’m sorry, but a grown ass man or woman should not have to be told that they have to brush their teeth. It may be depression, but let’s be real, get off your ass and brush your goddamn teeth. You have to want to better for yourself and your partner. No one likes stinky breath!! If you want to be single and do that shit, by all means, but when you are with someone you care for them by taking care of yourself and vice versa.
Yes you are right there is no perfect person but I think it a responsibility of a full grown adult to look after oneself and not behave liked a child that need your spouse to nag at you on basic oral hygiene . It a respect for your spouse , imagine yourself in her position , do you want to kiss a garbage smell mouth .
My husband doesn’t brush his teeth and goes months without showering. The room stinks even after he leaves it. I’ve asked him to take showers mor often and brush his teeth and he won’t do it. We haven’t been intimate in almost 4 years.
I’m in a pickle. I’ve got a great guy, a true gentleman… the take your coat and pull out your chair type of guy. He’s just a sweetie but now that we live together, I’m not sure if he let himself go or if he was able to hide it in the beginning. But his toothbrush/ paste stay in the same exact spot for days. I told him in a joking but serious way that if he wanted to kiss me he needed to brush his teeth. The biggest turn off for me is that he doesn’t brush his tongue and I feel like that’s where the bacteria collects! He brushes his teeth for 30 seconds, MAYBE! He has food stuck in his teeth a lot, drinks a ton of coffee and is a chain smoker, (which he also hid lol) on top of it all. I’ll tell him he has something in his teeth and he’ll act like it’s no big deal. Most people would be mortified, right? The plaque is building up to the point that I can see it on his teeth. I’m constantly turning to forums and on & off debating breaking up with him because of it. There would have been no second date if I’d known this from the beginning. I only peck kiss him and that’s coming to an end today because currently I’m sitting here typing this with my mouth feeling dirty. Im learning that his hygiene overall is concerning. He repeats clothes now and I wanted to cuddle last night but he smelled like cheese. Lmao I know it sounds like I’m trolling but I’m so serious and as I type this out sadly I think I know what I need to do. Like your shirt is stained, sir. I love him to pieces though so it’s so hard. I also don’t know if I’m a just stickler and if poor hygiene is more common than I think, like will this be an issue in other guys. Poor hygiene is a dealbreaker for me (when I typed hygiene the toothbrush emoji popped up… ironic? I think not… more like a sign, yikes). It’s just a huge turn off and I don’t want him to go down on me anymore. He’s a grown man and I don’t think I can or should want to change him sadly. At that age he is who he is.
I have a fella who have s lovely kind amazing and very supportive. But he stinks. Some days are worse than others, my son actually rescued me by openly telling him he stinks (lool) and he started coming over showered and smelling good, think it’s just laziness.
But his breath, let’s just say we have had sex once in 6 months and I was drunk, his breath is gross and I’ve been having my own dental issues and I’m having to.pay alot for a private dentist. We have had a conversation about teeth and he admits he gets pain when he brushed and so avoids it, I gave him some specialist toothpaste from my own prescription and I’m yet to smell any improvement. I really like this guy and we have been dating slowly for 7 months, I’m actually dreading having the conversation but I didn’t just spend £700 at the dentist to go down with someone else’s face death
I see lots of women complaining about men but I on the other hand have had bad experiences with my ex partners (women). Hispanic women 20sh to be exact. It’s a constant argument that I thought after bringing it up the first time would do it but no. The first time, they got really offended and defensive then the non stop tears that made me feel terrible. I tried to hold my tongue a couple of times but after nearly a year into this relationship I’m really disappointed things are still the same. I bring it up cause I want to kiss her and I get blamed for making things so difficult. I don’t find it fair that she gets a fresh scent breath by my breath and I get shit breath. I’m not mean about it neither. I just say, can you please brush your teeth. Insert her (fit). Then I walk off to sleep on the couch.
I’m a hygienist dental assistant and me and my partner just moved in together and I’m noticing that he doesent floss and he swears he uses the floss pickers .People don’t realize that those things are just something quick if you’re out to dinner etc. it should never replace regular flossing at all. So he has a dead tooth in his mouth from his previous root canal that wasn’t replaced by a crown and it’s starting to turn grey and I suggest that he should get one to match the same color of his natural teeth he argues with me and says the dentist said he doesn’t need one . Even if he gets whitening it’s not going to help because the tooth is dead and it’s a front tooth #9 . Bacteria accumulates throughout the day in between and all in your mouth. The bud wants to cuddle up behind me and it grosses me out like dude go floss and brush your teeth and brush your tongue. Oh and I’m 8.5 months pregnant and it was not like this before and I know my sense of smell is at an all time high.
I told my boyfriend before and he said he felt insulted but will do it, but as time goes he still the same.
Now I don’t know what to say because it’s bad and I don’t want him to feel like iam offending him